When motivation is a struggle, it’s time to realign your why

In this episode, we’re exploring an aspect of change that can be really tricky: figuring out why making this change is important to you.

It doesn’t sound like it would be that hard.  But often it takes a little digging to get at the true heart of our WHY, our compelling reason. 

Whether your goals have to do with your health, finances, career, relationships, or anything else, uncovering your compelling reason is crucial. Because it not only increases your chances of success; it also bolsters your overall mental and emotional health. 

Key Takeaways

  • Knowing what you want to change (or how you’re going to go about it) often isn’t enough to overcome the counter-pressure of the status quo.
  • A lack of alignment between our goals and our values causes internal conflict that reduces our resilience to everyday stresses.
  • When we pursue changes or goals that are about other people’s expectations or approval, succeeding may not be as satisfying or rewarding as we think
  • Wanting to avoid something bad is just as valid a reason as wanting to obtain something good. But it is a different sort of why.

Action Steps

  1. Make a list of your reasons for wanting to accomplish a certain goal or create a specific change.
  2. For each reason, ask yourself: But why do I want that? What would that bring into my life? Then what?
  3. Keep asking that question until your answers feel connected to what you value most.

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