I was recently exchanging emails with someone who was struggling to change some unhelpful behaviors.
He wrote: “I do really well for a couple of days and then I go totally off the rails again. It’s such a vicious cycle. I just need to be be more disciplined.”
And if there is something that you are struggling to change, you’ve probably thought the same thing. But I don’t think summoning up more discipline is necessarily the answer.
In this episode, I’m talking with someone who found a better way to create positive change and momentum–which led to dramatic improvements in her health.
As you listen, think about how the specifics of her translate into whatever you’re working on and the kind of effort you are applying to that work.
- Instead of focusing on the behaviors you’re trying to change, take a look at the thoughts and beliefs that are driving these behaviors.
- When it comes to lasting behavior change, self-awareness will get you a lot further than will power.
- If you are frustrated with your results, ask yourself if you are happy with the effort that you are putting in to create them.
- Being able to ask for (and accept) help or support is an under-rated super power
- Offering support to others is a great way to access wisdom and insight that can be applied to your own situation.