The Serenity Prayer (“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to tell the difference”) counsels us to accept the things that we cannot change. But often, the things that we say we cannot change are actually 100% within our control. In this episode, we explore whether something is truly out of our control or if we just prefer to believe that it is.
- We may choose to believe that a situation is out of our control to avoid doing the hard work of change.
- Taking responsibility for what we are, in fact, choosing gives us the ability to choose differently.
- Being honest with ourselves about what we are actually getting from a “bad” situation may allow us to find other ways to serve those needs.
- Ensuring that you are acting in alignment with your core values can help you stay on a more meaningful path, especially when your judgement is feeling cloudy.
Lab Experiment (download a copy)
Identify a situation in your life that you’re not happy with and make 4 lists.
- What’s not working: Is it not creating the desired results, is it costing you too much, or creating consequences?
- What is working: How is the status quo actually serving you? What are you getting from this situation that you want or feel you need?
- What I can’t control: Make sure the things you’re putting on this list are truly things that you have no control over.
- Actions I can take: Refer back to what’s working/not working for ideas and inspiration.