Sometimes, our desire to change is rooted in the belief that we are not good enough – and that we need to fix whatever is wrong with us in order to be happy or fulfilled. But rather than being motivating, this can actually be a very limiting belief that makes it more challenging to create positive change. In this episode, we explore the idea that we are good enough… even if there are things that we want to change.
When we are always striving to become good enough, we live our lives from a place of not being good enough – or being broken, needing to be fixed.
When we make peace with the fact that we aren’t perfect, but we are good enough, it liberates us to devote our lives to simply getting better.
Making peace with our imperfections does not mean that we stop trying to better ourselves, it just means that we don’t have to delay contentment for that elusive day when we finally reach our goal.
Lab Experiment: (click here to download)
Take some time to reflect and consider how the limiting belief ‘I’m not good enough’ affects your own life. To help guide your thinking, ask yourself these questions:
- In what ways and what areas do you recognize this belief in your own life? How does this belief manifest in different areas of your life?
- How has your life been affected by believing this? What results have you achieved or missed out on?
- Think about the past events where you learned to believe that you were ‘not good enough’ and consider how you could re-interpret these events now?
- If you make the decision to choose to accept the fact that who you are as an individual is fundamentally ‘good enough’ then how might you change or modify your expectations of the future? (do you think you might start that business, plan that investment, ask that person out for coffee?)